Digital Detox Diaries: Through The Lens
In conversation with Pasco, a wedding photographer and Co-Founder and Director of Men’s Circle
Pasco is a wedding photographer and Co-Founder and Director of Men’s Circle, a self-development group for men to talk without judgement.
Based in East London, Pasco is a veteran of Unplugged, having escaped the demands of city life for digital detoxes at three of our cabins; Gruff, Monty and Olive.
Here, Pasco shares why getting back to basics helped him to challenge hustle culture and celebrate slowing down.
Pasco: I love the concept as I find it hard to switch off. My girlfriend and I spend so much time in the week on our phones or laptops. So even before our stay, we've had weekends where we consciously turn off our phones. But the idea of going out into nature without our phones felt really nice.
Overall, no. I've had periods of my life where I haven't had a phone. It took me a long time to get a smartphone anyway. As a freelancer, I was worried I might miss emails over the weekend. But you get to Monday and realise it can wait. I now make a point of telling people not to apologise if they don’t reply straight away.
The first cabin we went to was called Gruff. It had a very warm feeling because of all of the wood. There's a honey tint to the room, particularly when the sun is streaming in. You could tell a lot of thought had been put into the cabin with space-saving storage and luxury touches. There's something relaxing about having such a small space because you don't take much with you.
We can become unconsciously overwhelmed. I focus on mental health as part of my work for the Men's Circle. There's evidence to show that social media and the internet have been driving factors of anxiety. If I speak for myself, there's a certain amount of anxiety that can come with the constant demands of the internet and digital expectations. Unplugging allows freedom from that.
Our most recent stay in the Monty cabin was probably the first time I've ever read a whole book in a weekend. It was a book that was already in the cabin called "Do Nothing." And it was talking about expectations around productivity. When I arrived at the cabin, I noticed I found it hard to relax. I think that's such a symptom of capitalism and society and how we measure our success through our productivity. We forget that resting and enjoying cooking or looking at nature is a way to live. We don't always have to be getting somewhere or achieving something. Slowing down feels like an achievement in itself.
My camera feels very different to a phone. A phone is constantly calling for your attention. When you get a notification, your curiosity as a human plays into, "What could that be? I'm going to read it." Which then requires thinking to work out how to respond. That all layers up. I've been shooting for so long, the camera has become an extension of myself.
Just presence more than anything. There is a subtle attention your phone takes when it's there. I'm aware that my phone is next to me, and there's a slight temptation to check it. We're so used to multitasking all the time. But it takes up more of our energy, and we do less. It's a useful practice to do one thing at a time.
Three pigs? That was very surprising! Yeah, three ginger pigs came out of nowhere like roaming free. It was very random. They were very friendly and curious. They just followed us around for a bit.
It was just very relaxing. Letting go. Easy. It's that beautiful mix of luxury in terms of the warm, well-designed home and the expansiveness of nature. Being blissfully at one with nature through the massive windows.
I think it's the internet that you're unplugging from, more than anything. It's the attention that it grabs. It's Netflix, it’s the infinite amount of information and entertainment. It's about coming back to the basics. They still have the Nokia 3310 for emergencies. I turned that off, though. I don't know why.
What helps me is just completely removing the temptation. If I go to a restaurant, I consciously don't take my phone. I've been better at turning my phone off or into aeroplane mode much earlier, maybe 8pm. And in the mornings, I try to only turn it on around 9am, so I've had at least an hour to arrive to the day. I'm very much on my way. It's just a new habit to learn.
It's spurred my reading habits. I didn't read much before this year – now I've read six books. I'm sure Unplugged has had something to do with that. It felt like a real achievement to finish a whole book in a weekend, particularly considering I'm quite dyslexic. So I'm not always the quickest of readers.
A question I often ask men is, "When was the last time you spent a day with yourself?" Off your phone to reconnect with who you are – not trying to achieve anything necessarily. And not being co-dependent or reliant on someone else to justify who you are. I think many people are afraid of being on their own in that way because of what might come up in their minds, or they might be bored, but I would always advocate for that time. I think there's a lot of power in that kind of solitude.
Interview by Harriet Osborne // @harrietosborne
Featuring Pasco // @pasco.photography
Photography by Pasco // @pasco.photography
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